Your pain is all in the mind/head. Seriously? How many of you have heard this about your pain?
When I first experienced problems with my lower back, I had a trip to hospital where they put me on traction for a week which seemed to do the trick.
Unfortunately, it did not last for long and the pain came back worse than ever. At that time, we were also in the process of moving house from the North to the Midlands, so we were all staying at my sisters during this transition.
I visited my local GP who told me that the pain was “all in my mind, as I was under so much stress with the move”. I hoped he was right.
However, he was wrong, and I went from bad to worse. My sister came with me to my next visit to my GP to make sure he understood my pain was most definitely NOT ” all in my mind”.
He suggested I should go and see a Physiotherapist who helped me a little but said I had a serious back
problem and needed to some a spinal consultant. Six weeks later and the move to the Midlands was imminent, and the back pain was the same!
It became intolerable trying to unpack and sort out all my belongings so my sister organised for me to see a GP back in the North who was a friend of hers (I was not registered with any GP at that
He immediately sent me to see a Neurosurgeon who sent me for a myelogram which showed the awful state two of my lower discs were in and said I needed surgery asap. Simply lifting my daughter could risk paralysis.
That was back in 1987 and since then I have had another three major spinal surgeries to my cervical and my lumber spine. My last one was done in 1999. During those many years of pain, I did see a few different specialists, and some had different views about my spinal problems. One wrote to my GP and put
that “I was small in stature and extremely overweight and if I lost a couple of stone all my pain would go away”. I did lose the weight but the pain did not go away.
Recently I have been seeing someone to help with my recent flare ups and diagnosis of arthritis in both my sciatic joints and neuropathic pain down my arm.
When I first saw him, we talked everything through, and he explained in detail how I could pace myself even more to avoid some of my flare ups pain and he also gave me two exercises to do to loosen up my stiff back. I religiously these exercises as well as some neck ones that I was given by a spinal consultant a few weeks ago.
Two weeks after my first session with the health provider I said I felt the exercises were making my spine less stiff, but I was still having trouble with my pins and needles down my arm. He told me to avoid any exercises that caused the pins and needles and gave me some acupuncture around my hip area and told to keep a two-week diary of how I was feeling on a daily basis.
Another two weeks passed but I did not feel there was any difference in my pain relief since my last visit to him, but I did feel my spine was less stiff. I explained this to him, and he suggested a couple of things to try.
My lumber pain comes on while walking but the trouble is I do not know how long I can
walk before it triggers it off. He suggested I take a walking stick with me and to set an alarm on my watch
when the pain comes on so that I can see how far I can walk without pain. He then suggested I should then try to increase this little by little until I feel no pain while walking. This sounded reasonable to me and something I am trying.
The second suggestion totally threw me as we had been chatting for about fifteen minutes. He said he truly felt that all my pain “is in my head”! I could not believe I was being told this again.
“Even though the scans have shown differently”, I asked?”
“Yes”, he said and then told me about an MRI scan he had seen which was from an 87-year-old lady. He said her spine looked so bad it looked like she had been in a car crash. It was full of degenerative discs and bone spurs and yet this lady had no pain in her back whatsoever. He went onto say that maybe all my previous operations I have had in the past were not necessary as clearly, they have not worked. “If they had worked”, he said “then I would not be in pain now”.
“So”, I said, “What about the pins and needles, are they also in my head”? “Yes”, he said.
He then suggested I read the book “The Way Out” by Alan Gordon. The Revolutionary, Scientifically Proven Approach to Heal Chronic Pain.” The information on this book says –
From back pain to migraines, arthritis, and sciatica, over 1.2 billion people worldwide suffer from regular or chronic pain, 28 million in the UK alone. It’s a global epidemic that regularly resists treatment and can totally derail people’s lives. But it doesn’t have to be this way.
This is the revolutionary message from psychotherapist Alan Gordon who, frustrated by the lack of effective treatment for his own debilitating pain, developed a highly successful approach to eliminating symptoms without surgery or medication, offering a viable and drug-free alternative to existing – and
often addictive – methods.
Based on the premise that pain starts in the brain not the body, Gordon’s Pain Reprocessing Therapy (PRT) enables you to rewire your neural circuits and turn off ‘stuck’ pain signals. In a ground-breaking study,
PRT helped 98% of patients reduce their pain levels and 66% were completely cured. What’s more, these dramatic changes held up over time.
In The Way Out, Gordon provides an easy-to-follow guide to ending your pain with PRT. Drawing on cutting-edge research along with his own experiences as a chronic pain sufferer, he will help you:
– Understand how the brain can unintentionally ‘learn’ chronic pain
– Turn off pain signals that have become ‘stuck’ – these are false alarms
– Use revolutionary techniques to break the cycle of fear that causes
– Develop long-term strategies for living pain-free
Game-changing, practical and full of real-life stories from Gordon’s clinical practice, this book will change the way you think about pain forever – and give you a way out of your pain today.“
I bought the book straight away and will read it from page to page so see if there is truly a way to simply be completely pain free by understanding my brain and how it deals with my pain.
I honestly cannot understand why some health professionals think that you could possibly imagine all
your pain even if an MRI or CT Scan says differently? So how can that not be real? He even suggested
that every single person who had a spinal MRI would probably find something wrong with there spine on it.
I did not ask for this pain, I do not want this pain, I have tried and am still trying every possible thing in the book to help ease my pain. Do they seriously think that I don’t want to lift my grandchildren up or go on long
walks or travel far and wide? If I do any of the above then then I am in terrible pain for the rest of the day.
Having suffered with pain on and off for the last 34 years I think I now know all about pain and how to deal with it. I was just hoping for a bit of help along the way while I am in this acute phase at the moment. I just want to get back in control of my pain like I used to.
My surgeries did work at the time I had then done many years ago otherwise I would not have gone through with them but unfortunately, I was born with a slight malformation in my spine which is what has caused my problems from day one.
I am quite sure there must be hundreds if not thousands of chronic pain sufferers out there who have been told the same as me that your pain ” Is all in your head”. The chances are if they have never experienced any type of pain then actually, they have no idea how you feel.
What that last appointment made me feel initially was depressed and sad but then I remembered how nice the spinal consultant was and how he totally understood all that I was suffering with. I am sure I have benefited from the exercises I am doing and will continue to do and also the tips on pacing but other than that I felt it was a bit of a waste of my time.
However, it has stirred something up inside me that I have thought about in the past and that is to write a book about the spinal problems I have dealt with over the last 34 years and how I have overcome the pain it has thrown at me one way or another. I would love to write something that would help others who are in chronic pain. And to help them feel they are not imagining their pain and to know how to go about dealing with it.
I would love to know your opinion on this. Do you think a book like that would be worth writing?